Meaningful Questions to Build Connection

Meaningful questions are designed to lead you into a meaningful conversation. These kind of real conversations offer you the opportunity to really get to know each other – and to build true connection.

Meaningful conversations may help you to find out if the person might be a good future friend, a nice acquaintance or maybe you just a good & deep conversation for the moment (which is nice, too!).

The questions are sorted in five blocks – from starting questions, to deep talk, to taboo questions and – at last – friendships questions.

Some of the questions are based on the famous 36 questions to fall in love (or to make friends and good acquaintances).

Take your choice and enjoy your conversation. 🤗

☕ Starting Questions

Questions for the very beginning

• What brings you to this Meetup / Birthday Party / …?
• Where do you live in …. (Berlin)? What do you think about the area (Kiez) you live?
• For how long have you been living in … (Berlin)? What brought you here?
• How was your weekend? What did you do?
• How is your week so far?

Comming starting questions

• What are you doing for a living? What do you like about it?
• What are your hobbies? Why are you passionate about it?
• Are you having your coffee with or without milk?
• Vegan, vegetarian or carnivore?
• What are your plans for the weekend?

Interesting starting questions

• What was a nice, interesting or surprising experience in … (Berlin)?
• What is you most treasured memory in … (Berlin) so far?
• What are three things you really enjoy in … (Berlin)?
• What was something you were happy about the last two weeks?

🚲 Getting to know each other

Generell Questions

• Which person do you admire? What do you like about this person?
• If you could have a deep and onest conversation with person of your choice – who would it be? What would you talk about?

Dreams and goals

• What is one of your dreams?
• What are your goals this year?
• What is you biggest goal in life at the moment?

Nice Moments

• What are three things you a very grateful in your life? Why?
• What is your most treasured memory in your life so far?

When things went wrong

• What was one of your major failures?

The past

• Who did you have a crush on first? Tell a bit … 😊

From 36 Questions …

• If you could wake up tomorrowhaving gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
• If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are living now? Why?

⏳ Deep Talk Questions

Personal Questions

• What do you like about yourself?
• What is one of your major fears?
• What don’t you want me to know about you?
• What is one characteristic of yours that your children should (not) have?

From 36 questions …

• If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
• When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
• How was your relationship with your mother and your father?

Trouble, Life Change

• What are you struggling with? What is not working the way you want it right now in your life? Would you like some support?
• What was your worst relationship?
• If a miracle were to happen tonight: What would be a nice change in your life?

⛓ Taboo Questions

Questions about Money

• How much money do you earn?
• How much wealth do you have?
• What is your weakness when dealing with money?
• What is your strength in dealing with money?

Questions about Sex

• When was the last time you had sex?
• When was the last time you had bad sex?
• What was your best sexual experience?
• How many women / men have you had sex with so far?
• Is there a sexual fantasy that you would like to live out?
• What do you like during sex?
• What kind of porn do you watch?
• What are you ashamed of during sex?
• How do you satisfy yourself?
• Have you ever had a sexual experience that you didn’t like?

Politics and Religion

• Which party did you vote for?
• What do you think about [topic xyz]?
• Which religion are you close to?
• What do you think about [topic xyz on the subject of religion]?

Shameful Questions

• What was the last thing you were ashamed of?
• In general: What are you ashamed of?
• Do you pee in the shower?
• What do you like about your body? What don’t you like?

🦝🦝 Friendship Questions

Friendship questions

• What is important to you in a friendship?
• When do you consider someone a friend?
• What do not want to experience again in a friendship?
• What was or is your best friendship so far? Tell a bit about it …

Questions about friends

• Who are your friends?
• What do you like about your friends?
• What do you dislike about your friends?
• How do you imagine your ideal circle of friends?

The best friend

• Who is your best friend?
• How has your friendship developed?
• If you could send a wish to universe: How would be your perfect best friend? What are doing together?

A friendship develops

• What would you like to do with me?
• How can I support you?
• What kind of support do I like from you?
• Why would I be a good friend to you?
• Why would I be a bad friend for you?

You as a friend

• What makes you a good friend?
• What makes you a bad friend?
• What should a (future) friend know about you?
• What would you like to hide from your best friend?

Make or be friends

• Assuming someone is looking for friends in … (Berlin): What would you recommend to him or her?
• A spaceship is landing on earth. They are on a research mission to find out what friendship is. What do you tell our visiting aliens?

👩🏻‍🦰👨🏻 Meaningful Questions at the Meetup

Some of these meaningsful questions are used at our Meetups in Berlin to give the attendends a process to get to know each other easier, smoother and faster. We have the questions printed on cards.

You can see it at the tables: the mood changes with each question. In the beginning, the particpants are naturally somewhat strangers to each other. Then the conversation deepens. People become interested in each other. They are really engaged in the conversation. By the end they know each other. People are surprised.

As one participant put it: “It’s exciting how quickly you can have a good conversation. After an hour, I felt like we had known each other for a long time.”

And to tell you a secret: We don’t have the taboo questions at the meetup. These questions you should do by yourself.

Sometimes, participants ask if they can take the cards with them so that they can talk about these questions with their friends and acquaintances. Yes, they can. And even better: You can find the questions here.

If you want, please leave a comment if you liked these questions and how they enhanced the conversations with your friends.

For all who are interested – this is our Meetup-Group in English in Berlin. You will find friendship-workshops and normal meetups there. Feel free to enter the group:

• Meetups: Legendary Friends – Make Friends in Berlin

We also have a German Speaking Meetup Group.

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